Not Good Enough Gremlins

What happens when your not good enough gremlins take over and your emotions are in control of you? I was triggered this week and I noticed a change in my behaviour. Whilst I was aware of the trigger and aware of my body’s response, I was not immediately aware that my not good enough gremlins had unconsciously been released. Over the 48 hours after the initial trigger I found myself feeling defensive, insecure, overwhelmed by small things and part of me wanted to hide away.

Self-Aware

After many hours of personal therapy, training and self-awareness over the years, as a counsellor I believe I have deep understanding of myself and my patterns of behaviour. I was therefore surprised by the power of my unconscious and how quickly the gremlins were activated. It felt like the Gremlins were waiting for a crack in my mental armoury to escape and take an opportunity to cause a little chaos!

Internal Family Systems

Internal Family Systems suggests that as people we are made up of different parts in our mind, for example: our child, our adult, our protector, our negative voice, our worry wart, our cheerleader. There are many different aspects of our personality which have learned behaviour, often from our childhood experiences. When a person is triggered, one or more of their parts may come out and take charge! I pride myself on being the matriarch of myself but found that there are times when the Gremlins take charge!

Awareness

Are you are aware of your behaviour being different in certain situations or feel something has changed? I wonder if that change is simply a different part of you taking charge. At times I felt like my inner child was petulantly running the show and the not good enough Gremlins were egging her on. I have consciously been aware of these patterns in my behaviour but have not always been in control of them. Thankfully my defences are down again and my gremlins are no longer in charge!!

Support

If you feel that you are not always in control of your gremlins you may find it helpful and supportive to talk to a counsellor. Learn how you too can be in charge of your emotions rather them being in charge of you.

Shared by your local counsellor in Fleet, Caroline at Caroline Ellison Counselling – this is my experience and these are my opinions. Carpe Diem.

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